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Telling White Lies to Black Cats

↘︎ Jan 29, 2013 … 1′⇠ | skip ⇢

Holden Caufield was right – we’re all phonies. Whether you realize it or not, you probably lie. A lot.

According to studies of self-presentation, we typically act in ways that we want ourselves to be perceived by others, and not necessarily in accordance with the reality of our being. This type of behavior helps us get what we want, and through positive reinforcement, manipulation becomes very mainstream.

For example, maybe you have an upcoming job interview, and you’ve been out of work for a while, so to improve your outward disposition you get a slick haircut, splurge on new dress clothes, practice your best behavior, and do everything else in your power to trick the interviewer into thinking you’re the man (or woman) for the job.

When I describe it this way, it seems quite underhanded. Conniving, even. But it works.

Now, your typical day-to-day manipulation is not malicious by any means. A white lie never hurt anyone, right?

But I think in the long run repeated societal-deception can have a negative effect on our psyche. There becomes a disconnect between who we are and who we present to society. I think this can cause mental distress. (“Who am I?”)

I know I often catch myself saying one thing aloud, then instantaneously thinking in my head “Why did I say that? That’s not true!”

Overall I think it’s best to be as honest as possible, both with ourselves and with others. It takes practice to break away from bad habits and expose ourselves to backlash from our peers, but I have a lot of respect for those that are truthful and able to tell it like it is.

The next time you’re put in a tight spot and feel pressured to put on a show, try not to give the standard rigmarole, and instead, spit the truth. It might just work.

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circa 2017 (29 y/o)

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“On The Internet, Nobody Knows You’re A Dog.”

↘︎ Aug 9, 2010 … 1′⇠ | skip ⇢

Peter Steiner

I propose a new law:

All internet users must use their full name as their username for all websites, and on top of that, for their profile picture or avatar, they must use an actual picture of themselves.

I have my fingers crossed that Obama will pass it soon.

…

Internet anonymity is such a sham… if you don’t want a future employer or important other to find dirt about you on the internet, then don’t let it get there in the first place.

Through the veils of monikers, internet users are able to spew diatribes and masquerade an alter ego, all without ever revealing their true selfs.

This disconnect from the self, while therapeutic for some, makes the internet a place akin to Bizarro World… a far divide from the actual world we live in.

I think that the internet would become a lot more “normal” if more people simply used their real name and actual picture instead of some appellation and fictitious avatar for the websites they frequent.

Psychologically speaking, using a handle and avatar allows the user to lose their sense of self… it allows them to assume a new personality and toss the moral fibres they were raised with.

That’s why you see people say and do things on the internet they would never otherwise do in real life… they have have lost their self-awareness and act in a more primordial manner.

After running a website with a lot of teenage male users for over a year now, I’ve noticed that nearly every troublesome user I’ve dealt with was someone who assumed a pen-name… what a coincidence.

Stay real.

-Adam

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circa 1996 (9 y/o)

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